Letting Go of Unfairness and Injustice

The belief in a just world, also known as the “just world hypothesis,” is the idea that the world is fair and that people get what they deserve. This belief can help individuals feel a sense of control and predictability in their lives, as it suggests that good things happen to good people and bad things happen to bad people.

However, when bad things happen to good people, it challenges this belief and creates a sense of injustice and unfairness. People may struggle to accept this reality and may try to find reasons or explanations for why it happened, such as attributing the event to luck or divine intervention.

This belief can also lead to victim blaming, as people try to rationalise the unfair event by blaming the victim for their own misfortune. In reality, bad things happen to good people for a variety of reasons, including random chance, systemic inequalities, and unforeseeable circumstances.

People often struggle to accept unfairness and injustice because it challenges their beliefs and understanding of the world. Unfair and unjust events can disrupt an individual’s sense of justice, order, and stability, and cause them to question their assumptions about the way the world works. These events can lead to a loss of faith in institutions, such as the legal system or government, and a decline in trust in other individuals.

In some cases, people may struggle to accept unfairness and injustice because it contradicts their personal values and beliefs about what is right and wrong. This can lead to a sense of cognitive dissonance, as people try to reconcile their beliefs with the reality of what is happening around them.

Furthermore, experiencing or witnessing unfairness and injustice can challenge people’s perceptions of their own privilege and power, and make them more aware of systemic inequalities and biases. This can lead to a shift in worldview and a deeper understanding of social and political issues.

From the perspective of a clinical psychologist, accepting and letting go of feelings of injustice and unfairness may involve the following steps:

Acknowledge and validate your feelings: It’s important to recognize and accept the emotions you are experiencing, such as anger or frustration, as a normal response to perceived injustice or unfairness.

Reframe your thoughts: You can challenge negative thought patterns and try to reframe your thinking to focus on what you can control and what you have, rather than what you lack or what has gone wrong.

Practice mindfulness: Mindfulness can help you remain present in the moment and not get caught up in rumination about the past or worry about the future.

Seek social support: Talking to trusted friends, family members, or a mental health professional can help you process your emotions and gain new perspectives.

Develop coping strategies: Engage in activities that help you manage stress and negative emotions, such as exercise, meditation, or creative pursuits.

Focus on personal growth: Try to view the situation as an opportunity for growth and self-discovery, rather than as a source of suffering.

Letting go: Finally, letting go may involve accepting the situation as it is and focusing your energy on things you can change and improve. This may involve focusing on what you have, rather than what you don’t have, and cultivating a sense of gratitude.

It’s important to keep in mind that everyone’s experience with injustice and unfairness is unique, and that there is no one-size-fits-all solution. Working with a mental health professional can help you develop a personalised approach to managing these emotions.

Recognising that bad things can happen to good people can be difficult, but it can also help individuals develop a more nuanced understanding of the world and increase empathy for those who have suffered injustice.